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The Ingredients For A Healthy Relational

A week

A month

6 months

A year

Maybe just maybe a lifetime.

But the truth is only you can determine how long it will last because this is an emotional investment you are making with another person. Possibly one of the biggest ones you can make because nothing hurts more like a broken heart.

Questions many of us ask before entering a new relationship. How long before my heart gets broken? How many happiness moments we will shared before we start fighting about silly things? How sure are we that this is the right person for us or are we just gambling with our hearts in the hopes that it be just end up being the right person because life is a game after all.

Here are a couple of factors that can determine how long your relationship will last. The first one being

Communication

Communication, communication I can’t stress this enough because this is how you strength your bond with your person and I’m not referring to the good morning text or the good night text but sharing something really personal which will also build trust within the relationship, especially if you are really serious about the relationship. There is nothing a like little lie to break up what you are trying to build with your person. There should be a no secret rule in your relationship this will bring you closer together.

This may be hard in the start believe me it’s not as easy as I’m writing it now.

So talk more about your goals, your dreams to show the person  that there is a place for them in your life just not only  in the present moment but also in the near future.

The sex

Let’s be honest that sex is one of the most important factor of any relationship because with sex your connection gets deeper with your person. You are sharing a secret part of your body with another person so deep that your souls are connected in the process. Happy Couples have great sex and not boring funless sex which leads to the person wanting to experiment outside of relationship. One thing to never do is to be shy in the bedroom, I know it may be hard but it’s not impossible to do. Try role playing once in a while to keep the fire alive.

The family and friends factor

Now this is the one that can make or break your relationship depending how much influence you allow them to have. It’s okay for your family and friends advice you on the person but don’t allow it to cloud your judgement or for you to make a decision based on their opinion. No relationship comes without baggage just like no person comes without a past. Everyone has the ability to change for better, it just takes the right person to do that sometimes. So learn to separate your relation from each other, if they go well together even better for you. One last thing to keep in mind is that your friends and family don’t have to be best friends with your person but they just have to be civilize towards one another.

The money factor

Let’s me honest this has cause many relationships to end on bitter note. When you are in a relationship with someone it’s both your responsibility to treat each other. If you are really serious about the future of your relationship you should try to work on this already slowly. As much as you want to spend on the person try to save together as a couple for a treat.

The love factor

When love is true and real happiness is the order of the day. Nothing kills you more than being in a loveless relationship,  forcing feelings onto someone that doesn’t want to put in the same amount of work and time into the relationship. This is the kind of stress and pain you don’t want or need in your life. We all deserve to experience true love in our life so don’t rob yourself of this amazing experience by being in a wrong relationship. When love is there it just makes things a lot easier.

Without love there is no relationship.

Last factor being “FUN”

This is so important!!! Fun moments are needed in any relationship so don’t deny yourself this part of the relationship. Play with each other because laughter is one of the best medicine,  like the saying goes “make them laugh and they are yours already”.

Those just some of the ingredients you need for a healthy long strong and loving relationship.

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The art of being grateful

An experienced I had this past weekend made me question how ungrateful we are sometimes and in the process we take for granted the things and people we have in our lives not knowing that there is someone wishing they had what you have.
Now what is ungrateful according to dictionary.com ungrateful is being
“unappreciative; not displaying gratitude; not giving due return or recompense for benefits conferred: ungrateful heirs. 2. unpleasant; distasteful; repellent: an ungrateful task.”
Now we have a understanding of what it means to be ungrateful, just in case you didn’t know the true meaning of it.
From a very young age I was always taught to be grateful and thankful for what I have because there is someone who doesn’t have what you have and most importantly to share the little I have to bring joy to someone else.  These some of the lessons I learned from my grandmother, mother and uncle.
Being kind and thankful doesn’t take anything away from you instead it adds so much joy and blessings to your life.
We always take the people we love for granted, not knowing sooner or later their time with us will be cut short. Don’t wait for someone you love to be sick on their death bed or to stand in front of their open grave for you to realize how much you love this person and how grateful  you are to have them in of your life.
There is no greater theft them losing someone you love that you never truly appreciated. Don’t let your attitude of ungratefulness stop you from celebrating someone you love while they are still live.
Let’s stop waiting for special days to celebrate people in our life and it let become a everyday thing.
There are kids who wish they had one more moment with their parents, just to show them how grateful they are because the world is a cold place. I’m sure you would much rather visit your parents at home then at the graveyard with tears in your eyes.
It takes you less than 5 minutes out of your busy schedule to just call someone to tell them how grateful you are to have them in your life and sometimes simple sms would do before you going drinking because none of us are promised tomorrow.
Stop waiting for the right time, mood or for their birthday to show appreciation to someone you love.
Don’t let your pride robbery you of happy memories you could’ve create with someone.
Let’s try to be grateful people because the world needs more of us.
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Connection failed

You know when you meet someone for the first time and they are almost what you want but there is no real connection or I have just been down playing it for a while.

That awkward moment when we both look at each, caught in the moment for a short while but there is a problem I have not seen the persons feet yet because I’m a feet lover.

Long story short….

The person rocks up yesterday gives my friend a hug and walks up to me, I asked “I’m also getting a hug” to my surprise the person said yes come here and the person is a really good hugger. Feeling the heat of the person against my body was weirdly nice , leaving me wondering what the kiss would be like but it’s just one of those people you just  want to be friends with.