Fun, Uncategorized

The Ingredients For A Healthy Relational

A week

A month

6 months

A year

Maybe just maybe a lifetime.

But the truth is only you can determine how long it will last because this is an emotional investment you are making with another person. Possibly one of the biggest ones you can make because nothing hurts more like a broken heart.

Questions many of us ask before entering a new relationship. How long before my heart gets broken? How many happiness moments we will shared before we start fighting about silly things? How sure are we that this is the right person for us or are we just gambling with our hearts in the hopes that it be just end up being the right person because life is a game after all.

Here are a couple of factors that can determine how long your relationship will last. The first one being

Communication

Communication, communication I can’t stress this enough because this is how you strength your bond with your person and I’m not referring to the good morning text or the good night text but sharing something really personal which will also build trust within the relationship, especially if you are really serious about the relationship. There is nothing a like little lie to break up what you are trying to build with your person. There should be a no secret rule in your relationship this will bring you closer together.

This may be hard in the start believe me it’s not as easy as I’m writing it now.

So talk more about your goals, your dreams to show the person  that there is a place for them in your life just not only  in the present moment but also in the near future.

The sex

Let’s be honest that sex is one of the most important factor of any relationship because with sex your connection gets deeper with your person. You are sharing a secret part of your body with another person so deep that your souls are connected in the process. Happy Couples have great sex and not boring funless sex which leads to the person wanting to experiment outside of relationship. One thing to never do is to be shy in the bedroom, I know it may be hard but it’s not impossible to do. Try role playing once in a while to keep the fire alive.

The family and friends factor

Now this is the one that can make or break your relationship depending how much influence you allow them to have. It’s okay for your family and friends advice you on the person but don’t allow it to cloud your judgement or for you to make a decision based on their opinion. No relationship comes without baggage just like no person comes without a past. Everyone has the ability to change for better, it just takes the right person to do that sometimes. So learn to separate your relation from each other, if they go well together even better for you. One last thing to keep in mind is that your friends and family don’t have to be best friends with your person but they just have to be civilize towards one another.

The money factor

Let’s me honest this has cause many relationships to end on bitter note. When you are in a relationship with someone it’s both your responsibility to treat each other. If you are really serious about the future of your relationship you should try to work on this already slowly. As much as you want to spend on the person try to save together as a couple for a treat.

The love factor

When love is true and real happiness is the order of the day. Nothing kills you more than being in a loveless relationship,  forcing feelings onto someone that doesn’t want to put in the same amount of work and time into the relationship. This is the kind of stress and pain you don’t want or need in your life. We all deserve to experience true love in our life so don’t rob yourself of this amazing experience by being in a wrong relationship. When love is there it just makes things a lot easier.

Without love there is no relationship.

Last factor being “FUN”

This is so important!!! Fun moments are needed in any relationship so don’t deny yourself this part of the relationship. Play with each other because laughter is one of the best medicine,  like the saying goes “make them laugh and they are yours already”.

Those just some of the ingredients you need for a healthy long strong and loving relationship.

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Little part of me, Uncategorized

What is a relationship

What is a relationship

This question has cross my mind as I’m reflecting on my relationship with people, including family and friends.

Google defines a relationship as a “the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected”.

Relationships are built over a period of time key ingredients for a long lasting strong one is..
-Trust
-honesty
-communication
-forgiveness

Trust being one of the most important factor in building a relationship, because you will be sharing personal information with another person. To be honest I have never put my trust in anyone because people can disappointe you and I have learned this the hard way. One thing is clear tust can’t be rushed, it takes time.

Honesty and trust goes hand in hand, you can have one without the other.  It turns perfect strangers into milk and coffee,  the balance is crucial and needs to be maintained.
I have always been too honest with people putting my heart on the ground,  just for it to be burnt by the sun, thinking people will be the shade for my heart. I guess kindness burns but that should not stop us from believing that there is good in the world and never to punish another person for the mistake of someone else.

Without communication there is no relationship, there is no way in hell you can claim to have a relationship with a person that you hardly talk to.
Not sure if there is a thing called over communicating with someone but I think I do that alot, don’t get me wrong I don’t get annoyed but sometimes I over share especially if I like you. I just feel like if  I don’t talk to a person I like they may forget about me but I always tell you that I need a lot of attention *laugh* I’m that guy of guy. I have learned communicating is a two way thing, you can’t be the only watering the tree of friendship,  just as you came together to plant the seeds. Nothing hurts more than losing a friend, just cause you were the only one trying to keep it alive.

Forgiveness, understanding, patience and compromising are the ideal elements of any healthy, long lasting relationship. Forgiveness is not a easy thing to do in any form of a relationship but when it’s from the heart, it builts the relationship. There are things that are simplying unforgivable also which can end a beautiful relationship that’s why understanding and patience goes a long way.

Never fight for a relationship if you are the only fighting for its wellbeing,  it just stole your happiness.  It’s best to move on because sadly some relationships come with an expiry date.

Almost take the beautiful moments with you. That’s what I do, it serves you no good carrying around hater in your heart because all it does is kill you slowly.

Thank the person for being part of your story and for the role they played.

Smile… Thank you for being part of my journey.

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I’m so confused

I know I can’t have you but you make me want you knowing that you are in a position which doesn’t allow you to have me.
Thinking about you has become second nature however I’m fighting my feelings that are already there. I ask myself “how did this happen” why me ? Then I see your smile ,I have my answer and the way you light up when you smile leaves me weak to the point that I can’t stand on my own.  Your laugh is music to my ears, your voice is medicine to my soul, all I need is a little bit but could this very same medicine be the death of me? Are you busy killing me slowly? I’m turning into a  victim of love. The way you look at me makes me feel like I’m the only boy in the world, I’m your Eiffel Tower if you only allow me to light up your world. My perfect moment is when you look at me, the way you do without saying a word,  the way our eyes meet and connect for a moment is just the two of us. I call it our language because no one else gets it but us.
When you touch me it feels like my body is melting in your hands, you are the fire my body needs to stay warm at the same time I’m scared that this very fire can burn me out. My lips can’t simply forget yours, the fire I felt when our lips met for the first time, felt like I was falling from a high building and you were right there to catch me, your kisses set my lips on fire and now you want to kill it. I was fine without you, why did you ask me about my feelings, knowing you can’t keep the fire burning that you have started. Hating you has crossed my mind like the wind blowing on a cold winter morning but then my heart is heated up by your voice like the sun heats up the earth on a cold afternoon.
Why are we fighting this? I’m ready to fall for you completely but I’m not sure you will be there to catch me.
It kills me slowly when you ask me to stop thinking about you in that way.
If you can’t be happy with me, I hope you will be happy with the person you with. Your happiness is my favourite season, seeing you laugh is my summer, seeing you smile is my spring.
Could this be the end to my short lived fairytale?