I must say keeping the fire burning is one the most difficult things to do sometimes in a relationship especially if you were dating for a long time, things just start to get boring which is a normal part of any relationship but you should be able to keep the fire burning it may not be easy but it’s do-able.
I always try to keep things as fun as possible and the best part is that sometimes my partner does the most which catches me off guard. Mind you my partner was not the most romantic person but had moments sometimes.
For me a relationship is just like making a fire, it’s not easy to get it started sometimes cause there is a lot of factors involved like the type of wood, cutting the wood and finally bringing it together to make a fire. The thing with a fire is that you need to put wood on to keep the fire going, just like in a relationship you need to put in effort no off days. Nothing feels as good as being kept warm by the flames of your fire, just like those passionate moments when your bodies are intertwined together. Sometimes it’s absolutely fine to let the flames go down to enjoy the warmth of the coals and the heat they provide.
Here are a couple of things I do to keep the fire burning in my relationship and hopefully it can also work for you.
1. Stop taking your partner for granted, always try to celebrate your partner. Always try to send a random text at random times.
2. Take each other on surprise dates.
Planning “date nights” and let me tell you date night works, it’s still a thing especially if you want to spend some time alone just to reconnect again and make it as fun as possible. Our date nights are always crazy and I like that. So let’s agree that “date night” is most certainly important.
3. Dedicate a couple of hours a week without electronics.
I can see people making faces as they are read this. I have noticed at first how much time we spend on our phones when we are together to the point that when my partner is speaking and I’m not listening to a single word, till I challenged us to spend less time on our phones when we are together. Now we are using that precious time engaging in a meaningful conversation or just make fun of each other.
4. Have more sex.
I’m sure you were waiting on this one *laugh* try to make it as random as possible, don’t wait for the bed to do it, nothing feels as good as surprise sex, having your breath knocked out of your body as you searching for more air in the mouth of your partner while holding on as tight as you can to their body. Do in the shower, do it in the car , do in the kitchen, do in a public rest room, you get the idea just do it shamelessly and you welcome to try that move you saw in a porn video. You will thank me later and remember there will be many times when one of you is in the mood to have sex when the other isn’t.
5. Always kiss or hug your partner hello.
Nothing feels as good as having their body pressed against yours and feeling the warmth of it. Having your lips locked together while your tongues are fighting for domination in each others mouth. Hell, some people probably have sheets and pillowcases with the phrase on it. Yes, it is very important to kiss the one you love.
That’s how I used to keep the fire burning in my relationship and keep in mind its never easy there are days we both busy and can’t do date night but we still find a way to do something together. So this winter make sure you have enough firewood to keep that fire burning.